Now you're just somebody that I used to know.

I was talking to my friend on Skype about this problem she's been having with her boyfriend. In a nutshell, he's hot, she's hopeless, and another girl is stealing her thunder. Now she's bitching and moaning about how the other girl is drooling and hogging up the guy and his time and so she can't even talk to him.

At first I was a little sympathetic. But only for a while. I listened, of course, but it's too pathetic I couldn't even give a quarter of fuck. Instead I told her she's an idiot. But she's so in love (or a real moron) that she's turn a deaf ear to reason and logic.

When I think about it, I guess I can understand the circumstances of her situation. I could muster a little empathy because I know how hard it is being in a relationship and how easily your self esteem can suffer when another girl, prettier and perkier, is sniffing around your turf. The way I see it, you can either take it lying down and cry about it or take out the other girl. If she really is in love as she said she is, then the second option should've been an easy option.

If you're not willing to fight for the one you claim to love, then it can't really be love can it dumbass.

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Me personally, I do believe in love, and I think when you feel it you will know that it's love. But the whole one guy one girl, here on forever after, true love; I have a hard time expressing that. Because by my logic, let's say you've been with a guy for 10 years and it's great, and if you claim he is your true love, then who's to say what will happen in another 5 years?

You can't plant a seed in the ground and say that's a tree. Just like how you shouldn't claim at your wedding day that you've met your true love when you're only just starting a life with that person. When you're on your death bed and you think, I've been with the same man for 40 years and I love him as much and even more than I did the first time I met him then yes, that man is your true love.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is love should be a growing thing. Putting a definite character on it like 'forever', or 'true', seems a bit inappropriate.

"I promise to be the very best husband and father that I can be." -Dexter's wedding vow.

By far, the most well put, believable wedding vow ever.

And really, that is all I want in a man.